Where My Eyes Gaze, My Heart Will Follow

God is so amazing. I have been on a bit of a journey over the past few weeks and He has revealed much to me. I don't know exactly how it began, but at one point I noticed that I was feeling disconnected from God. While I was still hearing from Him, still worshiping Him, still reading my Bible, I just wasn't feeling that active joy I've had in Him for the past few years. I still loved and wanted to serve Him, but did not know exactly how to go about doing that. Nothing I tried seemed to "work." It was as if I had jumped off of the boat without knowing it and was missing the ride. I've been through valleys with God before but this was different. I kept trying various things to get the resulting connection I desired. I fervently prayed to hear Him more clearly, see Him more obviously, feel Him more closely. I hungered, I longed, I sulked for that joy I seemed to have lost. Never did I turn my eyes from God, not once...well, not really.

So, in the midst of all this spiritual turmoil I was feeling, God gave me this dream:

I was in a room with a bunch of people. It felt like high school. There were small groups chatting with each other. I was talking to a male friend of mine and, as my interest in him was romantic, I invited him over for a visit later. After our conversation I sensed that his feelings did not mirror my own and so I decided to move on. I quickly engaged in conversation with another guy and found myself flirting with him. I asked him for some advice. I, apparently, had not attended classes all semester and was wondering if I should even bother come exam time. He told me that I should just do what is easy, what makes me feel good. His advice made me feel better and the romance continued to grow. My previous interest appeared again, but in the form of a girl. She had made me a very intricate and beautiful book-like card explaining her feelings for me. I glanced through it quick enough to register the idea that she was sad, felt rejected and was indeed very interested in me. My heart was saddened slightly but I put up a wall of defense right away. I reasoned that it was not my fault, that she didn't reciprocate my feelings, and now I had moved on. I went back to my new, and exciting romance. We continued to flirt, thinking we were well hidden, but I looked up to see many eyes staring at us with disapproval. At first I was concerned, but very quickly a "who cares" attitude took over. I chose to leave with this guy only to pass my previous interest once again, who had taken on yet another form - this time of another male friend. He was very upset as he watched me leave with this new guy, but I no longer cared. I was happy.

At first this dream made little sense to me until I wrote it down, all the while listening for the Spirit to lead me in it's interpretation. The initial thing I saw was that my first romance was Jesus. The manifestation of Him in three different forms reminded me of the trinity, but also that He can (and does) appear to us in many different forms, ones that we may not expect. I saw myself straying from my "first romance" (my first Love) because I did not get the reciprocation I had expected. Instead I searched elsewhere and found a sinful romance. After all, what kind of godly person would give advice such as that-to do what is easy and makes me feel good. I became aware that God was showing me the far too easy downward spiral that can happen when we let sin into our lives, or make bad choices. First I turned from God, who was gently wooing me with great detail and care (as I saw from the intricate card He made). Then I took a step further and walked into the arms of that sinful romance. Initially there was guilt associated with it, but in the end I stopped caring about anything but myself.

While I was grateful for the message in this dream, it also troubled me. God revealed that just because I am not getting the reaction from loving Him which I desire, it doesn't mean that He isn't loving me. I actually knew this, which is why I kept pursuing Him, but it was a needed reminder. The thing that kept eating away at me was the degeneration of my love for God. I thought, this must be a warning of where I might end up, should I remain on this path. I couldn't see how that was possible, after all, I was still loving God...or was I?

After much analyzing and questioning, I chose to give up problem solving. I have a tendency to do that. I love to find the route of things, an explanation, so that I can solve the issue at hand. However, doing so kept me going in circles. I began praying that He would help me to focus on Him instead of on myself and how I was feeling, what I was missing, what I wanted. After all, He's already given me the greatest gift He could, who am I to ask for more? Not only that, but it is rather exhausting thinking about me all the time and I would much rather it be about Him.

Well, once again, God answered. Praise the Lord! The other night I was thinking about Him and realized that some of that joy had returned. I was elated! Since then, even more has found it's way back into my heart. The journey, however, did not end there. I set out to share what I learned and, as He continues to do, God has blessed me through this blog and has revealed more revelations and clarity.

I said before that I never turned my eyes from God, but I had; that I was still loving Him, but I was not (not very well, at least). I was wrapped up in myself, focused on what I wanted from Him. I was waiting for God to reward me for loving Him, and in a specific way even. But true love does not expect anything in return. Just as in my dream, I had looked to God just quickly enough to see His love for me. I now see that indeed the dream was entirely about me and not just a warning. Not loving Him without expectation, being caught up in what I yearned for Him to give me-that was the sinful romance. God was reminding me of who He is - the only one worthy of our praise and worship, the creator of all things, the beginning and the end, the Holy One, the One who is love. Who am I to question how He reveals Himself to me? Who am I to try and paint Him into a corner or put Him into that proverbial box? Like Job, I need to remember to focus on God at all times. Fortunately, I didn't need to go through the same experience to learn that! In hindsight I see that what I masqueraded as focus on God was actually focus on myself. Even though my thoughts were about Him, they were rooted in what He can do for me.

During this journey I had also received another message, more than once. In wanting to just love God and focus on Him, I chose to ask how I could do that-since everything I was trying did not seem to be working. I heard Him say "sing." I didn't get it until today. I was listening to a song that spoke of singing all the time; singing praises to our creator during the good times and the bad. In other words, in case it hasn't hit home yet, focus on God at all times. Worship Him at all times.

While I could feel something was "off" for weeks, I think this was so hard to pin point because originally it came from a place of goodness. It started out with a desire for more God, more of those highs we all feel when He's touched us so personally. Somehow the desire became selfish and all about me. It became a need to repeat what I had felt before, and on a larger scale, but I forgot to put God before the desire. Yes, He will give us the desires of our hearts, but our hearts need to be aligned with His first.

In my dream, our loving and caring Father was watching me and mourning, despite the fact that I walked out the door on the arm of my sin. Even as I struggled in my awake hours, I know that He continued to care, that he felt saddened as He kept constant watch over me. Even during this temporary relapse He was there, patiently waiting and gently wooing me back. He truly is a romantic.

Lord, I ask for Your forgiveness. Though I knew in my head that you are the great I Am, my heart lost sight of that for a while. I am sorry for that. Thank You for calling me and shifting my focus back to you. Since my eyes began gazing into Yours again, I have again found the joy that loving You brings. Joy that helps me to enjoy the good times and find pleasure during the harder times. May this lesson be a reminder to others that might struggle from time to time with this same issue. May they hear You calling their gaze back to You, back to that place of joy and love. Amen.